I’m posting this for all my fellow new mamas or existing mamas that have dealt with some sort of negative feelings toward their self image after baby. STOP IT.
Ok, I know easier said than done.
I hear quite a few times from women WEEKLY, “your body will never be the same” “things don’t go back to where they were” “you won’t be in the same stuff you use to” and the list goes on. I already knew that though.
Right after I found out I was pregnant, I had a moment of being selfish about my body changing. Who doesn’t when they find out they’re pregnant? But guess what, it lasted a few minutes and I went back to thinking about what our little baby was going to be like, was the baby a he or she at that time, who will they look like, so on and so forth. I already knew my body was going to change so what was the point of being sad, or upset about it. Little did I know just how much different I would look while being pregnant, because I was SO swollen. BUT GUESS WHAT? I didn’t care, even though at time I literally looked like the pillsbury doughboy, I was so proud of my changing body for growing and taking care of my now beautiful baby girl.
JUMP TO NOW, 5 months postpartum. Five months since I’ve given birth to my babygirl. Things are definitely still in that early postpartum stage. Oh and throw in breastfeeding/pumping. The girls are definitely different, and I already promised myself I wouldn’t be opposed to ‘fixing’ those after we are finished having babies. 😉 BUT AGAIN GUESS WHAT. My body went through NINE months of growing, and spacing out and giving everything I had to Londyn. Of course there has been moments, that I’ve almost grieved my pre baby body but I also embrace the changes.
Anytime I hear a mom say, I’m a mom I can’t wear that, or I wish I had the time to take care of myself, or wow how do you even finish your makeup at this point. I take the time to do it! I pick out clothes that are still trending and in style but maybe change the size, or the way I wear it, I make sure I’m taking time for myself even if it means waking up an hour earlier than I would before, to be able to fully do my makeup and hair. Why? Well because I work around the general public and I wouldn’t want to scare them, 😉 but really because It makes me feel good. I LOVE BEING A MOM, but I also love taking care of myself, I love putting time into my makeup, hair, outfits, ect.
I have had my moments of completely not feeling like myself, feeling very low and self conscious, especially at times while working in fashion, but it just urges me more to figure out how to wear something to work with my new mom bod. Like bathing suit shopping for example, don’t even get me started. I went with my best friend, and I’m not going to lie I may have shed a tear in the fitting room, but guess what? I found something that I loved, and felt great in after sucking it up. MAMAS, don’t ever let YOU make yourself think you’re not beautiful, you are a MAMA, you birthed a human! That automatically makes you a superwoman!
xoxo
Alex,
Well said my dear 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Loved it! Made me emotional 😭 I’m so proud of you! 😘
aw thank you Eli! <3
Totally the truth. Youbare beautiful inside and out. You are an amazing momma. You look totally amazing and I coukdbt be prouder of you and all of your accomplishments. You go Mariah…lol I know you get that. I love you so.very much
Thanks mom ❤️